First: R. Keeth Matheny - http://sellaunchpad.com
Second: Parenting with Love & Logic: https://www.loveandlogic.com
Third: The Whole Brain Child: Dr. Daniel Siegel
Below is an example chart like the one we discussed in the episode.
Identify your time of struggle:
Ex: Bath time
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What is the plan:
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Jobs we can help to engage the little
people?
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How do we know if we are starting to
escalate?
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De- Escalation Techniques
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Kid needs to get cleaned What is your goal? Get him cleaned What is your fluff that is not important? It doesn’t have to be a bath, it can be a shower. Get rid of the toys that cause him to want to stay longer and cause a problem. Are there any distractions? Get rid of the phone. |
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Have him wash his own body with
the loofa. Help him put his own shampoo in his hair.
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Triggers? Yelling from the toddler Physiological Responses? My heart starts racing Is your phone in your hand? If it is, let it go and drop kick it sister! |
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Create a signal with your child that you need
a break
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Do not speak. Or say your empathetic one
liner, but don’t engage.
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Put your hands behind your back to avoid
physical contact with your child.
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Remove yourself from the situation
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Move it or Lose it: Jumping Jacks, Yoga,
Stretches, deep breathing technique (Breath-in 4 seconds, hold 4 seconds,
Breath-out 4 seconds, hold 4 seconds- Repeat), meditate, pray
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Avoid your phone
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Identify your time of struggle:
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What is the plan:
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Jobs we can help to engage the little
people?
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How do we know if we are starting to
escalate?
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De- Escalation Techniques
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What is your goal? What is your fluff that is not important? Are there any distractions? |
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Triggers? Physiological Responses? Is your phone in your hand? |
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